I remember the first time my wife set some steamed broccoli on my plate.
Our daughter was about a year old, and she was starting to eat regular food.
I looked at Shana with my eyebrows raised.
“Our children are going to go up eating healthy, and Emily needs to see us eating vegetables.”
Like many other kids who grew up in the—oh let’s face it who grew up anytime in the last 50 years—broccoli was the food that we all made fun of.
No one ever actually ate it, did they?
Well, regardless of my history, I took a bite.
It wasn’t bad.
And so began our long running association with fruits and vegetables.
At one point, things got so bad that we got Emily a “Costco-sized” can of Del Monte Green Beans for her birthday and she acted like we’d just gotten her a car simply because she was so used to eating fresh or frozen green beans that the added preservatives in the can was like eating cake to her.
But you know what? Kids really like vegetables.
We think they only like fish sticks and pizza, but when kids get a taste of real food, they tend to want more.
It’s like that with true spirituality.
Last June I went on a mission trip with some folks from my church. We ranged in age from 15 to 45, with most of us (okay: them) in their 20s. We built houses all day, and hung out with some kids in villages around Panajachel, Guatemala. At night we would sit up on the roof of our hotel and just unpack the day.
There was an older gentleman who wasn’t really a part of our church, but he’d traveled with our team to see what Porch de Salomon was up to. This guy—he has since become a spiritual mentor/director to me—would sit with us, and while most of us were just trying to recover from the day or crack bad jokes, he would start to ask us very simple questions:
“So how did you grow spiritually today?”
“Where did you see God today?”
These were not crazy, earth-shattering questions, and yet somehow they were the questions we needed to answer.
And as we began to answer, the most amazing thing began to happen:
tears were shed…
poignant stories—of vulnerability and roundedness—began to be shared…
fears were exposed…
hopes were laid out…
All from these simple questions, and an older individual who refused to let us stay on the surface, and who was unafraid to lead us to tender places.
Even when what we thought wanted was just a chance to knock back a beer or two and laugh.
What we really needed was to go into our souls.
It revolutionized my understanding of what people are seeking.
I thought people—in particular younger people—were in search of superficial, tepid spirituality. I thought they wanted to work and drink and laugh and then shop and then go home.
But I was wrong.
What I learned is that people are hunger, even desperate for something real and deep and life-changing.
They want to cry. They want to tell their stories. And share their fears. They—we—want to be known.
I see so much in church “discipleship” that is designed to get people serving, and giving, and participating, but I’m not sure I see efforts to cultivate spiritual directors, or mentoring. I’m not sure I hear people relentlessly asking the basic spiritual questions we are all hungry for.
“How have I grown spiritually today?”
“Have I been honest with myself and others?”
“Have I hurt someone today? Do I need to ask forgiveness from someone?”
These are the thoughts that people want to think about.
Sometimes it seems like the church is convinced that people want “Happy Meals” or some kind of GMO perfection, but what we want is something earthy, connected, and trusted.
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Sometimes people don’t like questions. They tend to ostracize those who ask them.
Very true, Jimmy. Feel free to ask here and I’ll do my best to answer.
This is exactly how I have felt being involved in a ministry in college. It is so easy to look at the people around me and myself and think that everyone just wants to have friends to hang out with and things to do on the weekends if they don’t want to party. That we just want safety and security. But if I have learned anything the last four years being at school it is that everyone is searching for something and wants more, and a lot of people just don’t know how to get to that part of themselves. Which is why asking the right questions, the really simple ones that you talked about, are so important. I have been blessed to belong to a community where that is encouraged in the context of discipleship, and I am stretched every time I ask someone those questions and when I am asked myself. This encourages me to keep asking them and to not settle for the surface. Thanks for sharing, Uncle!